Dragon And Human Marriages
Red in Nature, Tooth & Claw: Dragon & Human Relationships: Marriage
San Fernando Valley, California
July 21, 2060
By JONAH
The State of California was the first in the U.S. to allow interspecies marriage between dragons and humans. It became law on August 1, 2050.
Next month marks the 10th anniversary of the Dracian Marriage Act of 2050. It was a watershed event marking a historical change in the relationship between our two species. An important turning point, the landmark legislation helped to recognize the value of dragons to society. It also gave the official wink towards other states adopting similar legislation. Currently, over half the states recognize the legal union.
"I was in college when the law passed allowing humans and dragons to marry," said David Campbell, a 30 year old engineer in Los Angeles. "To be honest, I didn't support it at the time. There were a lot of people who didn't support it. We thought marriage should be restricted to our own species. I guess we all thought people would be humping livestock in the middle of the street or something. Not to say that dragons are animals -- I mean we're all animals -- it's just that we had different attitudes back then. Dragons are intelligent. I now support people and dragons getting married if they want to. I may not understand it, but I support their decision if that's what they want to do."
Statistics show that draco-human marriages have a significantly higher success rate than conventional human-human marriages. In states that legally recognize draco-human unions, they represent an 8% divorce rate over the last 10 years since marriages first became legalized - compared to a nearly 40% divorce rate among human-human marriages in the same period of time. The greatest difference is seen in California: the state that led the way to draco-human legal unions. Among draco-human married couples, the divorce rate has been 6% over the last 10 years - verses 67% of the state's human-human couples. The differentia is believed to be represented by major cities such as San Francisco, Los Angeles and San Diego, where the large municipalities are far more willing to accept and accommodate the married lifestyle as compared to other communities in the U.S.
But acceptance is certainly not the case everywhere -- even among family. Prejudice against draco-human marriages exists within the couple's own extended families. "It's often humans with issues over draco-human unions, rather than the other way around," said Dr. Thomas A. Scott, a San Diego Marriage and Family Therapist.
A recent Stanford poll shows 37% of humans in Dracian-human marriages have a parent or sibling who has a major issue with the marriage -- while only 5% of the dragon's side of the family have a similar concern. "I can't remember last time I had my parents over," said Michael Ackerman, a resident of Van Nuys, CA, the only person in his family married to a dragon. "I remember my parents were upset when I told them I was dating a dragon. That was 7 years ago, we're married now. Even after our marriage, none of my family has ever accepted him."
Mike gave an example of his marriage to his partner, a dragon male named Brus (pronounced "Bruce"), and how marriage affected the relationship with his maternal family, such as his parents, brothers and sisters, etc. "It was a few years before we got married -- the holidays I think." Brus leaned over to Mike, saying it was Christmas. "Yeah, it was Christmas dinner. My parents clearly understood Brus would be coming over with me, and for them to have something appropriate for him to eat. But once we got there, I found out they hadn't made any accommodations for Brus whatsoever. No food, no seating arrangements, or a space at the table. Nothing. We had rented one of those trucks from the County of LA that's modified for a dragon, you know, weeks ahead of time -- and I think it was just my parents way of saying Brus wasn't welcome to the family. And you know what? I've never seen them since. They didn't even come to the wedding -- and Brus and I have been married 5 years now." I asked if he misses seeing his parents. "Yeah, I miss them, but we talk on the phone from time to time. It was my parents who made the decision to break contact with us. It has been their choice, not mine. But at least I've been welcomed into Brus' family. They are very sweet, and I've learned a lot about dragons just by being with Brus' family for their holidays. And Brus makes sure they remember to celebrate Christmas and Thanksgiving for me! People say dragons care only about their own kind, but I've seen nothing but warmth and love coming from his family. I love them almost as much as I love Brus himself!"
I asked Brus if he was satisfied with marriage. He spoke in a deep tone, seemingly appropriate for his 1,100 pound size. "Mike is my mate. If Mike's family wants no contact, then I get him instead of them. More for me." The dragon grinned, giving Mike an affectionate, yet possessive stare.
During the course of interviewing married dragon-human couples over the last several years, I wanted to delve deeper into personal issues and ask questions about sexuality. I found humans to be comparatively reserved in speaking of sexual issues, particularly as they pertain to having sex with dragons -- whereas I found dragons to be remarkably straightforward in discussing any manner of dragon-human sexuality.
I interviewed a long-time married couple: the human male named Dale Magario-House of Dyn, and the dragon male named John Magario-House of Dyn. They've been married for 15 years, joining both of their last names together as a shared hyphenated surname. It's a common practice in male-male draco-human marriages. They both agreed to be interviewed with their marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein.
There are big physical and emotional differences between dragons and humans. I asked Dr. Klein if these differences affected sexual intimacy. "The average [Trenton] bull dragon weighs 1,000 to 1,200 lbs, but John tips the scales at over 1,600 lbs. This is an extreme in size comparison when you consider Dale weighs 150 pounds."
"Precautions are necessary when having sex with a dragon, especially a dragon male," said Dr. Klein, "but when you add John's size to the equation, you get a pretty good idea of the potential risk involved. Now, if you're asking about sexual intimacy as far as foreplay and other forms of sensual contact in bed, I would say that this is often not where the problem lies. Holding, kissing and caressing your draco partner is more a human need, but dragons do a pretty good job at understanding our species' need for this kind of "inessential" intimate contact, and in my experience with counseling draco-human couples, the dragon doesn't usually consider it a problem and is usually more than willing to please his or her human partner. It's a two-way street naturally, we accommodate a dragon's emotional and physical needs, and they accommodate ours. Dragons are pretty good at sharing. It's usually humans who have trouble meeting half-way."
Dale explained the dangers of having sexual intercourse with his partner. "John would never knowingly hurt me, but it's good to know when to pull back, when to step down a bit. He can be aggressive sexually -- and there are times we've had to slow down before it went too far," Dale said. "Obviously, you can see John is a very large dragon, and he understands he could easily hurt me because of his size. It's something we try to always be aware when being together."
"Having sex, he means," John said, "is careful not to hurt Dale. I try and know Dale is human, is careful not to hurt when fucking him."
"Yeah, it's always on our minds when we're in bed, you know. Sex with a dragon isn't to be taken lightly," Dale said, smiling up at John. John grinned back, his large teeth showed prominently.
"And you know it's funny, it really is," Dale said. "Everyone thinks a dragon's penis is this really big thing, right? My friends never tire of asking me about it, my gay friends tease me about it. And I tell them the truth. I really tell them the truth. I tell them its one thing to see a dragon's cock on the net or in a porn magazine, right, but I tell you something, a dragon's cock is much different when you see it in person. You'll laugh -- to give you an example how naïve I was when John and I, um, went to bed for the very first time -- I have to laugh now -- but when I saw his erect penis, I honestly thought John was kidding about having sex. I mean, we're both laying in bed -- and he's sporting this hugh erection that would make a draft horse shy, and I remember laying next to him wondering what I was suppose to do with it. It was like, John was staring at me -- I'm staring at his cock -- I look back up at John who's looking at me, I look down again, wondering what I'm supposed to do. It was awkward -- really awkward. I honestly didn't know what to do, and neither did John. To be honest, we were both very green with each others species then."
I asked Dale if the two of them have penetrative sex. "Well, yeah, of course" he said, "but I need to prepare, and I've loosened up a lot since I first met John." John hissed in laughter.
"Well, we're usually both on our sides, facing each other -- or I'm on top of John kneeling over his belly as he penetrates me. I usually control the penetration part, you know. Once I'm all warmed up, he takes the lead. The bowel takes a bend, so once he's past the Sigmoid, he can go further than just the first 6 or 7 inches. It's still limited, you know. At least it's enough to satisfy him. Oh, and lots of lube! Lots and lots of lube!"
I was curious if John always finishes to orgasm, so I asked either one the question. John smiled toothily. "Oh yeah, there's something you need to know about dragons," Dale explained. "They will finish. If you don't want to be thoroughly inseminated -- then you better not begin [sex] unless you're ready to finish [him] off. Not being able to handle his size is not a good enough reason."
What would happen if a person had sex with a dragon, and then changed his or her mind part way through? John growled at the question. "You're fucked," Dale said. "You don't do that to a dragon. I mean, chances are nothing is going to happen to you, I guess. But it's not considered polite to, um, initiate sex with a dragon -- a male especially -- and not perform. As far as I can see there are two reasons: first, there's a part of a dragon's mind that kicks in at some feral level. It's very aggravating for a dragon to begin sex and not be able to finish off. It's not like they can masturbate with their claws you know, unless they got that masturbation platform that horses use. I understand a lot of dragons are getting those, by the way." I asked Dale what the second reason was. "Oh, the second reason is more cultural I think. Is it?" he turned to John.
"Stopping sex is a language," John said, his deep voice completely believable for his massive size. "We talk in body like speaking, and it means something humans don't understand as much." I asked John what it means when either a person or another dragon refuses sex once it begins. "Rejection. For a mate to reject, it means something inside that isn't said."
"It's instinctual, right?" Dale asked.
John tilted his head in agreement. "It means the dominant mate [male dragon] is rejected for not being dominant. Danger dragon may dominate the human to have sex, that's inside us."
I asked Dale if coming up short for his partner had ever happened to him. "To be honest, there have been times I couldn't complete once we began; especially when I've been sore because of having sex that morning or the night before. But John knows it's not because of him, but because I'm human and we're not built to have sex with dragons very well, especially his size. He doesn't take it personally, but I will always help so he can finish. I sometimes lie on my back, raise my knees in the air and lube up my thighs. John straddles me, then penetrates between my thighs, I'll grasp his cockhead with my hands and follow his thrusts. It doesn't take long. The problem is dragons produce a lot of ejaculate, and since my face is in the line of fire, I just learn to take it like a man," he laughed.
"When John and I are in bed together, I will curl up snuggled against his belly, his muscular arms wrapped across me, with his heavy leg curled around my lower half. He breaths through his mouth sometimes, so I hear the sound of air rushing in and out, his rising chest pushes me against the inside of his arms as he breathes. His saurian breath swirls around me as we sleep. It's just so comfortable. I don't know how to describe it. Sometimes he snores, but I've learned to live with it. I've never had the heart to wake him up because of it, and it's not like I can go anywhere until he does. It's like I'm a part of him. It's like, well, I think how lucky I am to be with him. There are times my love for John is so strong, that I feel I'm dreaming all of this -- that I'll wake up and he won't really be there. That is was all a dream. I don't know what I would do without him. He's the first thing on my mind when I wake up, the last when I go to bed at night.
The degree humans and dragons can love each other is amazing. I have learned a great deal by interviewing with them over the years, talking not only with couples in these unique relationships -- but the problems they face in day to day living together. This also includes the emotional and intimate ones.
This article is part of a series that attempts to cover in depth, the physical, emotional and intimate details of draco-human relationships -- both married, and unmarried. The relationships are dragons and people united as one, who has made the greatest commitment one can make: forming a life-long union with another outside of their own species. It's a testament to love, companionship and working together to make it work.
It's said that couples who enjoy mutual things are more likely to grow old together. What ever draco-human couples do to preserve their matrimonial vows, the numbers indicate it's working quite well. In future articles, I will address the lifestyle commitments that dragons and humans make in their marital unions: the vows they take, the commitment and the enormity and immaterial differences that somehow bind their lives together.
Dragon-human couples. It's an anomaly. But it seems to be working. To take a page from the book of Mike and Brus, Dale and John, canonized in each of their lives many years ago: "To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part."
Jonah